Surrogate Q&A

Will they be using your egg or an egg donor?

This is one of the most important questions. I am a Gestational Surrogate. So that means that we will be using an egg donor. We will not be using John's sperm either. The baby/babies will not be any part of us. A lot of times I notice that people get confused on how it works. The egg and sperm are put together to make an embryo. The embryo is transferred into my body. Although the embryo is in my body, my DNA does not get mixed with the embryo/fetus once that has happened. Which leads us into the next question.

How are you going to deal with the pregnancy and bonding with the baby, knowing they will be going to someone else?

For me personally, I know from the beginning that this is not my baby. I know that I am giving the gift of parenthood to someone who wants it to dearly. I will be in contact with them all the time and they baby will never be referred to as mine. I do think that what plays the biggest factor in this whole experience is knowing the baby is not biologically mine. If we used my eggs or John's sperm, then I would have a whole different perspective of being a surrogate. Seeing my IP's with their baby after the birth will not only be a kind of "closure" for me, but is also a reminder of why I am doing what I am doing.

Will you receive updates or picture of the baby/babies after the birth?

This is something that is discussed with you and the IP's. The agency will match you with someone who would like the same relationship after the birth that you want. I personally would love to see photos and have a relationship with my IP's. I am going into this hoping to become friends in the end.

How can you just give your baby up?

This is my favorite one. It kind of goes with the first question, but I just have to clarify again. This will not be MY baby. So I will happily give it to the parents. I am sure there will be some kind of sadness, but mostly to the fact that I am no longer pregnant. I LOVE being pregnant.

Will the IP's be in the room while you are giving birth?

Yes. My IP's will be in the room while I give birth. This is something that was very important and a must for me. I am not embarrassed at all for anyone to see their baby be born. I think it helps with bonding, not only with the baby but between us (IP's and me). I want to share every experience I possibly can with them in this process of having their baby.

Why did you decide to become a surrogate?

I have always thought of being a surrogate since I was in high school. After having Peyton and feeling the love that I have for her, I want to give someone that same feeling of unconditional and indescribable love. My MIL was also a surrogate through the same agency. Knowing she had a wonderful experience with it just sealed the deal. My SIL is also going to be a surrogate through the same agency.

More to come as I think of them or get asked :) Feel free to post any questions in the comments section!