13/14 Week Update

Hey Everyone!

I want to start by saying that this is going to be a very emotional post. I found out about a week ago that my IF changed his mind, and decided to go ahead with the reduction. I wanted to wait to post anything until after it was done and over with in case he decided to change his mind again. The past week has been a roller coaster for me, along with my family. I knew that this could happen all along, and I honestly was not prepared for him to actually change his mind. I went through a lot of different emotions. I was angry, hurt, and bitter to say the least. I was also still on my continued bed rest and had a lot of time on my hands to really think about this whole situation. Now that it is done and over with, I feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. I do not want to feel angry and bitter towards my IF. In reality the babies are his and it was his decision to make. I have went back and forth on why he would have changed his mind. We did not talk about why, but I have an understanding of why he decided to go through with it. I am not going to share my thoughts on that, because it was no one else's decision but his.

The procedure itself, went well. It was something uncomfortable and an indescribable feeling. I was not in pain at all, nor am I traumatized from the experience. Although those things did not happen, I will not ever choose to reduce again. I am on bed rest for the next week. No lifting and pretty much no standing for longer than an hour, the doctor would prefer less. I felt okay after the procedure, but as it has been two days I am gradually having a weird feeling in my stomach and some pain (cramp like) if I do walk around too much.

I also want to give a huge thank you to my very best friend, for taking the trip with me and being there for me. I also want to thank my wonderful Grandparents for helping me out so far with Peyton and taking care of me while John (my hubby)  is at work. Then of course to John for taking care of me 24/7 as well.  I love you guys so much and appreciate everything you have done for me and the support you have given me in the last two weeks! I could not have done it without any of you!

I am here for anyone who is interested in surrogacy and has any kind of questions! Whether it be how to get started, about the reduction, or anything else you may think of! I love educating people about surrogacy and IVF and I want to be as open as possible. One thing though, that I will not tolerate is rude or hurtful comments. Especially regarding the reduction. I don't expect everyone to agree with me, because I know people are pro-choice and pro-life. I respect that and I believe that I deserve that same respect in return.